I had the idea for Tribe Fortune while day dreaming in my kitchen. I had just meditated, and it arrived as a flash of inspiration. A complete picture in my mind: the people, the places, the conversations, the practitioners, the whole shape of it. I ran to my office and wrote it all down before it could disappear.

But the reason it arrived is the longer story.

I spent years becoming myself. Quietly, not dramatically. Reading, learning, sitting with things I had been avoiding for most of my adult life. Challenging the beliefs I had carried since childhood about what I deserved and what was possible. Learning, slowly, that I did not have to perform a different version of myself in every room I walked into.

My granny used to say: what's for you won't go by you. I did not really understand it until I stopped forcing things and started trusting that what was meant to find me would find me. That most of what happens in a life is happening for you, not to you.

What I wanted to share was not the polished version of any of this. The actual version. The things that are still in progress. The knowledge I had gathered from years of being my own test case, and the expert practitioners and guides in this part of the world, who know things that are genuinely worth knowing.

And I wanted to share it with women specifically. Because something happens in a room full of honest women that cannot happen any other way. When we put down the performance and the politeness and the lifelong instinct to shape ourselves around whoever we happen to be with, we become more of what we actually are.